Psychic vampires are people who drain the energy out of other people. They feed on the willingness to listen and care for them, leaving others exhausted. They tend to target those who are sensitive and empathic. While everyone does this kind of emotional draining occasionally, psychic vampires do it habitually.
While some psychic vampires are downright sociopathic, most are simply narcissistic or self-centered. They will use your better nature against you, draining your mental, emotional, and physical energy.
At their core, most psychic vampires are insecure and will work hard to make you feel insecure too. They will do everything they can to cause you to feel weak, intimidated, or afraid. Basically, the worse you feel, the better it is for them. They specialize in building themselves up by tearing you down.
They are often manipulative. They feed off the energy of those around them and feel no guilt about doing so. They work hard at making you feel guilty for not giving enough.
Many psychic vampires are not aware that they are draining others’ energy. They simply know that they feel better when they act in a certain way. Regardless, spending too much time in their presence can make you ill.
How to Recognize Psychic Vampires
Learning how to recognize psychic vampires is the all-important first step in learning how to protect yourself from them.
Most psychic vampires are oddly charismatic. They spend lots of time trying to shift blame for anything that goes wrong away from themselves while keeping the spotlight on themselves, often as a “victim.”
They will never accept responsibility for their part in any disagreement or personal issue. They often find themselves in the middle of a catastrophe, flailing to find a target to blame. One of the clearest markers of a psychic vampire is a constant “woe is me” attitude.
Psychic vampires always want to be the center of attention. They never like to be outdone and don’t like sharing the spotlight. They often lack the ability to feel genuine happiness over the success of others. They may use dehumanizing tactics or criticism to keep others insecure.
Remember, though, that everyone does these things from time to time. Look out for people who do these things habitually.
Most psychic vampires are deeply unhappy people who want everyone around them to be just as unhappy as they are. They are the type of person who will drag you down to lift themselves up.
How to Thwart Psychic Vampires
Psychic vampires demand a great deal of energy from the people that they target. This loss of energy can lead to chronic stress, anxiety, depression, and more. This is why it’s important to learn to recognize and neutralize these behaviors.
The best thing to do with this type of person is to cut them out of your life entirely. If they are someone you can’t avoid completely, minimize contact with them. Do not be drawn into their drama. Limit conversations to the minimum possible.
Do not attempt to educate them. Many of these people see this as criticizing and attacking them and will attack you in return. You can’t fix a psychic vampire and you shouldn’t try (unless you are a licensed therapist and they have approached you for assistance). Rather than try to change them, re-modulate your expectations about the relationship.
Lower your expectations. Know that most of these people are not capable of being empathetic towards you. Avoid sharing your problems with them, as this only invites them to do the same.
Set boundaries. Limit the amount of time you spend with them and the types of activities you share. If they try to extend or increase their visits, offer up a simple excuse: “I’m too tired” or “I’m too busy” will do just fine. Do not let them dictate the terms of how and when you get together.
Always keep your shields up around psychic vampires. Be stone-faced when you must interact with them. Don’t give them the emotional response they are looking for and they will eventually leave you alone.
In the end, the best thing you can do for yourself is to get out of the relationship entirely.